So this is something I have been thinking about lately. Is it ever acceptable to hang out with your ex if you are dating someone new? I personally feel there are a few different factors that affect this decision or whether it's wrong to OR right to do. If you and your ex both have moved on and there are no feelings there then I think it is okay. Of course if you are single it is okay. Everyone's situations are different, I know some people who can have relationships with there exs with nothing beyond friendship, but if you are with you think you might be tempted to "test the waters" again, then it's probably best if you give yourself boundaries. This can be hard especially if your last relationship did not end on bad terms, because no one really wants to blatantly hurt someone else's feelings by declining an invitation to go out. Relationships can be so complicated even though they honestly should not be. To be completely honest it should involve the two parties involved respecting each other which I do not think can truly happen if you are still seeing your ex. So, with all that being said, is it okay to have lunch with your ex? I guess the question at hand is, is it just lunch that is taking place and why are you guys meeting? This all needs to be sorted out in your head before you get there and feel uncomfortable or caught off guard by specific conversation.
A few things are for certain; if your partner is not okay with you and your ex "hanging out" you should definitely not go behind their back and see your ex. You also should not be holding secret conversations with your ex behind your current girl/boyfriends back. You shouldn't with hold information (i.e not mentioning that you are going out with your ex) it is still considered lying.
You SHOULD have open dialogue with your partner, have conversations about how they feel about the idea of hanging out wither their exes and you hanging out with yours. You may be surprised how they feel and you will feel much better, being honest (trust me)! These are just my opinions based on my experiences, not necessary truths.
- B
