F ck Child Support!!!

In the United States child support is payment made by a parent (mother or father) for maintenance of a child. By law a parent is often ordered to pay this. Although men are granted child support payment and I'm sure there are some who do take advantage of it, this post is about the many women, I know,who abuse the system. There are so many who use their children's support money to live, themselves which I don't condone. Im not gonna sugar coat it, I think it's BS that so many dads have to pay these women, as they are abusing the money. The requirement of child support payment isn't what disappoints me, it's the women who use their children's money to buy their boyfriend's/husband's shit, buying themselves clothes and shoes, getting their hair, nails, and feet done, etc. It burns me up! It's horrible, especially when the children are not being fully provided for. These men are expected to pay an arm and a leg for their children and often times end up dishing out extra money after they've paid their dollar amount child support,when they have there children. It's just not fair.
Then, of course if the men complain about the excess money they are spending its socially unacceptable. It's more principle than anything else. It's just not fair in my eyes. A person should not have to pay $500/ mo. for a preteen, and still be expected to dish out money when they have there child for visitation and when their child visits. I mean you think about your salary, imagine $500 (that is more than some people pay in rent) was coming out of your check each month and you were still expected to spend more money, you wouldn't be to thrilled either. It's not about not wanting to do for your child, it's more about how the system allows women to manipulate it.
If only we could create some kind of debit card system similar to EBT (electronic benefit transfer) which only allows purchase of unprepared food. A debit card, the "child payment debit card" would allow the parent receiving the child support to be able to use their card for registered bill payment (you would have to register your household which would eliminate paying bills where the child is not living ), clothes, and shoes in the size of the child/children (anytime the child's sizes change, their parent would be required to get that information updated) in a national database, and food. Anything not registered or entered in this database would not be an approved purchase. This would prevent parents from abusing their child support money and using it for themselves. It would truly benefit the child if this was done. Although extremely far fetched, the point I'm making is we need to get our communities together and do the right things.
Now let's address the fact that we shouldn't even have to depend on the legal system to determine how much support our children need. In the same breath it saddens me because I know we need the court system, without it, many children wouldn't have one of their parent's support, as sad as that is. So, there's no way we could do without the legal intervention right now. It's just really important that parents use their child's support money responsibly.

A thought provoking question: If I child has everything he/she needs, why does anyone have to pay anything?

Fuck Child Support & public policy for that matter!

As a woman, if you're reading this and you can't understand where I'm coming from, imagine you marry a man who has a child from a previous relationship or marriage and $500-600 is taken out of your household each month and given to another household YET your stepchild always needs and/or comes and stays with your husband and you on the weekends and you still have to feed, entertain, and provide for the child every weekend in addition to what you're paying monthly. Is it okay, now? Just think about it...

Super Shout out to the Mommys and Daddys who take care of the kids (with and) without the judicial system! Even though you should be doing what you do for your child, praise is still In order. Peace

-B