SEX (Mature Readers Only)

Hey Guys!

Today's post is about one of my favorite topics, sex! I am not going to go over board with it, do not worry. I know some people are less sexual than others and that is cool but regardless what your libido is you still needs to aim to please. You do not have to be a "freak" but you need to try to meet your partner half way. No one wants lazy or boring sex, trust me. I know I want someone who is going to make me remember, well after the sex is over, what it was like. I love heavy breathing, hot bodies, tussling, steamy, and wet sessions. All women are different, we all DO NOT like the same things. That is the first thing you need to know. Just because your last partner loved that thing you did with your tongue and her vaginal opening, does not mean the next girl will enjoy it. So pay attention, no one is going to stone you for not knowing, but do not keep doing the same tired shit over and over, watch how she responds to your touch, tongue, and kiss. This is for everyone, women and men. Figure out what YOUR partner needs to get where they need to be. That is part of the journey when you are with someone. It is awesome when one does not have to do an excessive amount of "research" to figure out what their partner needs but if you do have to do the research, just do it, its worth it.

It does not hurt to do something romantic every once in a while. Most people are down with some hardcore, solid sex on an average day. We all have busy schedules and demanding lives, and sometimes you just need to get in a (quick) orgasm/ or to "bust a nut". But every now and then get sexy for them. Light some candles, run a bubble bath, grab some beautiful flowers, make dinner or take them to dinner, or a opt for a full day outing (just you and them)- no distractions, go away for the day, some wine or your favorite spirit, a sexy get up, throw on some sexy tunes (if you like music), an irresistible undergarment, some sexy pumps, or keep it simple and wear nothing. If you aren't afraid of getting a little messy, utilize some whipped cream, cherries, chocolate syrup;  make a human sundae, and enjoy.  Be creative. ;-)

STOP being selfish. I am a pleaser so I love to see my partner satisfied. I have had orgasms from my partners obvious satisfaction. I promise it is possible. I understand if you are not totally comfortable with this and that is okay but try it, you might like it. Oral sex is not just foreplay. It will not kill you to perform until the curtains close. lol. What are you afraid of? Adults shouldn't be nervous about sexual adventure. Just do it, like NIKE (are you seeing a pattern with this phrase? lol). Now, I am not telling you to go putting your mouth on anything BUT do not be a prude in the bedroom. If you do not feel like you are good at "it", how will you improve unless you have practice? I am going call out the men on this one, do not be acting shy when it is time to eat the box. Seriously, don't be acting afraid or like you can not do it. It is only a big deal, when you make it one. Where is the logic in that? I am not even going to go into the spit and swallow debate. Because some of you guys are not ready for that just yet.

In my opinion every woman should own a sex toy. I have vibrators, bullets, and dildos in my collection. My personal favorite is the bullet mainly because I love clitoral stimulation. Self pleasure is a important part of knowing your body. If you do not know what to do yourself, how could you EVER guide someone else or how could you expect someone else to? I know some women are embarrassed by masturbation and other women say they do not get any pleasure from masturbation.

Let me tell you, you are not doing something right, because their is much pleasure and satisfaction in learning about yourself. There are to many women who have never had an orgasm. That shit is CRAZY!!! We need you ladies cumming. So if you do not masturbate for whatever reason, you've never done it, or you are against doing something out of the norm because you prefer being conservative please make an exception and try something new because what you are doing, isn't working. 

To go a bit further do not be afraid of bringing toys in the bedroom with your partner. They are wonderful at breaking the monotony. No one is asking you to change your routine overnight, just try something new. Talk to them and see what they think about the idea. I know many men are intimidated by toys but there is nothing to fear. If it is pleasing your woman, why not? You should be intimated by the next guy trying to do everything to her, you will not (and that is real).

Ladies and gentleman, life easily creates rifts and keeps us exhausted but there needs to be time made for intimacy and your partners emotional and sexual needs (you can often kill both birds with one stone). In no way do I condone cheating but the #1 reason people look outside their relationship is because they want to quench a sexual desire. Sometimes it is emotional of course but most of the time it is simply due to lack of sexual fulfillment. Get.With.The.Program. It is nothing wrong with spicing up your sex life with a threesome, trying a new position, or visiting to the strip club with your partner. Keep them interested. Love can only take you so far. No matter if you want to admit it or not, good sex is critical in a healthy relationship. Maybe not the most important element but it matters. 

Last but not least, I am tired of women blaming men for their short "cummings". It is just as much as a women's responsibility as it is your partner's (man or woman). Just because you are a woman does not mean you are satisfying him, because you have a vagina does not automatically mean you got the best sh*t ever. You may be surprised to find this out but guys fake orgasms too, ladies. You are probably saying "how in the hell can a guy physically fake a nut?" Plenty of my male friends have told me about times when they have faked to get sex over with because it was that boring, bad, or/and uncomfortable. Men deserve quality sex too. When you lay down with that man, make sure you give him 110%. This goes back to figuring out what your partner likes, needs, and wants. Once you figure that out, you can master it, and pleasing them will not be an issue. All and all, do not forget to have fun!

Remember

practice safe sex. 

xoxo, B